It doesn’t happen overnight.
It starts with small frictions.
With thoughts that feel familiar:
- “Why am I tired when, on paper, everything is fine?”
- “Why is it hard to ask for help, even when there is someone to ask?”
- “When did work turn into survival?”
- “Why do I constantly feel like I have to prove myself?”
These are not personal failures.
They are collisions.
A collision between an old system of functioning
and the human nervous system.
Where the system says:
perform → prove → hold your role
And the body answers:
tension → defense → exhaustion
There is a point where these collisions are no longer loud.
Not dramatic.
Just constant.
This is where things start to appear that feel “off”:
- procrastination around things that matter
- cynicism where there used to be enthusiasm
- loneliness, even when surrounded by people
- irritation over small things
This is usually where people blame themselves.
But the problem isn’t the person.
It’s the framework they are trying to function in.
HGM doesn’t start with “doing better.”
It starts with noticing the collision.
Moments like:
- when time disappears during a shared activity
- when, in a conversation, you no longer need to hold a role
- when a project isn’t easier — just more livable
- when work moves forward without pressure
And only afterwards you realize:
“Wait… there was no fear here.”
That’s the essence of the collision map.
Not telling you what you should do.
But showing where it hurts —
and where it doesn’t.
Where there is no constant self-defense,
playfulness appears.
Where there is no hidden accounting,
help becomes natural.
Where there is safety,
less doesn’t happen —
more does.
HGM doesn’t replace the old system.
It simply makes visible
where it collides with being human.
And once you see it,
you can’t unsee it.
We don’t need to be faster.
We need to be freer. ❤️